A Beautiful Love Story: "God is a Promise Keeper"
As a police officer, his responsibility
was to save and protect his community and state. He loved his wife and they
gave birth to three beautiful girls. Then one day, in a chase to capture a
communist North Korean agent, he was shot and died soon after. The third child
was just born and life for Esther Min has now become a hurricane.
In the 1970s, North Korea remained one of the most isolated and inaccessible countries in the world and still to this day. Travel was restricted in and out of the country. Press was controlled by the state and Kim Il-Sung was the supreme leader and a “god” like figure to the masses. Their allegiance and allies were to China and the Soviet Union while maintaining a hostile attitude toward the United States. Because war can break out at any moment between the two different ideologies of the North and South, people’s lives on both sides of the aisle were uncertain with anxiety to the millions.
After World War II, Korean War, and then the Vietnam War, many South Koreans wanted to live a free and successful life but political unrest kept the government and its people in an unstable economy. Due to election frauds and riots, Park Chung-Hee and his men staged a military coup and took over the government until his assassination in 1979. A month after the assassination, Chun Doo-Hwan staged his own coup and ruled the country till 1987. Welcome to South Korea in the 1970s with the political crisis before the 1988 summer Olympics. When the political system is uncertain, the economy and the burdens of life become uncertain. From the late 1960s to the early ’70s the base pay to the average South Korean was around $1.60 per day.
Life was a struggle for average Koreans, though by the 1970s economy was growing with disposable income and middle class spreading throughout South Korea in the late ’70s and ’80s, many people still lived in a harsh economic environment. The Korean war had ended but people still remembered much of the trauma from the Japanese occupation and the separation of families in the Korean War. Many like my father never saw their own family when North and South divided, but people moved on to look for better opportunities in life and education. It was in this environment that a young woman named Esther Min (US citizenship name) was married and bore three girls.
[Jackie, second oldest out of three. Jackie’s perspective]
Esther Min, arrived in America in 1976 in preparation for immigrating the family to America, and to look for work. Her children stayed behind in Korea until my mom worked odd jobs to support the immigration process for her three daughters. While she was in Korea there were many challenges because in the Korean tradition a home without a father meant that she was a second-class citizen. Moreover, as a single mother in Korea, life was even harsher than those with fathers. However, God by His sovereign plan allowed her easy entry to America. Needless to say, the struggles and challenges were just as hard and just as real in America as it was back in Korea. She didn’t speak English and she came without any support nor did she expect to find support in the new land. No English, no help, no work; this dark valley became the fertile ground for God to intervene. She was desperate to know that God would hear her cries and hope exists in a foreign land. By God’s grace, she got connected to a community of Christian Korean immigrants and through the support of this community, she found hope and began the journey of building a new life for herself and her young children. At the age of 10, 9, and 8, the three girls arrive in the United States in 1979.
Life wasn’t easy without a husband but somehow she managed like every other family who had immigrated to the area. For her, God played a major role in her life. My mom was very focused on raising her children in faith and following the word of God. “Seek Ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew 6:33). What I remembered of my mom was that she lived those words out to the tee. She wanted to give everything to her daughters like any other parents, but it was obvious that it was not possible under the circumstances. Because she lacked the husband's support, being so vulnerable, she had no choice but to rely on a Jesus.
I can’t say she knew God but what I remembered about her is that nothing mattered to her more than introducing to her daughters about Jesus and to live out his kingdom on earth as it was in heaven. Forget academics, forget educating them in extracurricular activities, forget ivy league colleges, forget about living it up and climbing the social, and corporate ladders. For her, it was all about living in faith and walking out of the kingdom of God as it was taught in the Bible. It was either do or die kind of faith; the kind that many people called overly zealous. I remembered she prayed a lot. She would work 6 days a week and pretty much worked 12 to 14 hours a day. That is about 80 hours a week. Even when she was very tired from work, when her kids complained of nightmares, she would pray through the night to comfort us to sleep. When one would complain of sickness, she would stay up and pray through the night comforting her children and then go to work early in the morning. Whenever something came up which was of concern, she would just pray and pray and pray some more until she received the answers to her prayers. Those prayers gave her sanity. Her prayers gave her strength to live on and her prayers gave hope to live another day.
[Joseph, husband to Jackie]
When I met my mother-in-law, I remember her as a woman that loves God and loves her children. She loved her daughters so much to the point that if she didn’t see the man-loving God more than her daughters, then he is not a good man to her eyes. I knew she didn’t have a husband but I wanted to show my respect to Mrs. Min by asking for her permission to court Jackie for future marriage. She turned me down! She said, “I like you, Mr. Choi, you have your own business and is willing to take care of my daughter, but you have to be baptized by the Holy Spirit. If you have been baptized by the Holy Spirit then you can court my daughter towards marriage.” “What in the world is she talking about! I got to have the Holy Spirit before I marry her? Are you kidding me!” was in my mind. I thought, “Where am I going to go get the Holy Spirit? Should I just go to a nearby grocery store and grab a bottle of olive oil?” A lot of crazy thoughts were in my mind and I didn’t know how to tell her that I can go get an olive oil to get baptized if she wanted.
I wasn’t a mature Christian back then. I accepted Christ when I was seventeen and was on a rocky road with Jesus finding my role with Him. I prayed a little, but I read the Bible every day and went to church on Sundays. I thought this should be enough for her daughter, was what I thought, but to my mother-in-law, having God consuming us with the baptism of the Holy Spirit meant everything. The spiritual problem was that I didn’t know what the baptism of the Holy Spirit was. So, I told her, “I got baptized when I was young, like three times and in three different denominations.” I got excited thinking that I”m giving her the right answer and in my thought, “Now she will say yes to my answer.” Her response, “No! That is not the baptism of the Holy Spirit. Until you figure it out and until you receive it, you will not marry my daughter.”
I wanted to cry. I wanted to get upset and I was confused at the same time about the baptism of the Holy Spirit. All the different emotions were going through my mind. But what I eventually realized was that my mother-in-law loved her daughter so much and wanted the man to be in the right relationship with a God, so he would in return love her daughter like Christ loves the church. Wow! What an amazing woman! Even after marriage, she would ask if I’m praying every morning and at night. She even tells me to make sure that I pray about two to three hours a day. In essence, she is wanting the man to love her daughter through prayer because only God can give true love.
Eventually, I did receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit. I told no one except my own mother about me courting Jackie, and she promised not to tell anyone. My mother would go into prayer for hours every day to confirm if she would be the right daughter-in-law for me. Two great moms praying and seeking the Lord and interceding on behalf of me and Jackie. What a privilege, we have in Jesus! Right after meeting my mother-in-law in Maryland, I went to work the next day in Colorado. My pastor at that time asked if I would be interested in doing a one on one Bible study. I was doing my own business at that time and I was very busy, but this is what he said that stunned me, “I would like to do a one on one Bible study so you can receive the Holy Spirit.” “What!” I shouted. I wasn’t sure what he said so I asked him again and he repeated, “I would like to help you learn more about the Bible and we’ll do a one on one Bible study, so you can receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit.” In my mind, I’m thinking, “This is crazy. God is so real.” This was the seed that was planted in my heart for God’s ministry.
So, I asked the pastor if my mother had spoken to him and he said, “Why would your mother be telling me to do this. This is something that has been in my mind for some time, but I felt this was the right timing to meet up with you personally and start the Bible study.” Wow! What an amazing timing of God. God’s timing is so perfect and His time works in ways that lead us to be more obedient to Him every day. So I jumped at it and started the Bible study every Wednesday morning at 6 am for an hour. I fell asleep a lot, but I kept my agreement. I’m thankful that my pastor was so understanding. When I first heard about this from my pastor, I called up my mother-in-law and told her, “Guess what mother-in-law, I’m going to get the Holy Spirit!” She was stunned but not shocked by how God has been moving in her life.
My mother-in-law was right and she had the right heart and relationship with Jesus as her heavenly Father, because her earthly husband has passed away, she needed the heavenly Father to be the protector and comforter in her life. She is constantly being reminded through the love of God’s words and the guidance by the Holy Spirit’s comfort over her life and that God will never leave her nor forsake her.
Deuteronomy 31:6-8
6 Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you .”
7 Then Moses summoned Joshua and said to him in the sight of all Israel, “ Be strong and courageous , for you shall go with this people into the land that the Lord has sworn to their fathers to give them, and you shall put them in possession of it. 8 It is the Lord who goes before you . He will be with you ; he will not leave you or forsake you . Do not fear or be dismayed .”
What an amazing encouragement we have from His Words and His Words are life-giving and life-changing. Throughout the Bible, it tells us “to visit orphans and widows in their affliction and to keep oneself unstained from the world” (James 1:27). God has truly kept His promise for her as a widow and never did leave her nor forsaken her. God kept His promise by sending many believers and strangers to bless her journey and arrive in times of desperate need. Our heavenly Father will always keep His promise and bless those who walk in His faith. Even when life seems uncertain, God is always certain.
My mother-in-law has three grown daughters and God went beyond His promise to bless her daughters with husbands who love God. Furthermore, all three men have become pastors. What a beautiful love story of God never leaving those whose faith in the Lord endures and receives the blessings from our heavenly Father . From the harsh environment and painful struggles in Korea to a life filled with uncertain challenges in America, God kept watching over her to fulfill a plan greater than her own desires. I write this article to you because I love my wife and greatly appreciate my mother-in-law's prayer for her daughter. It is my mother-in-law's faithfulness in Christ and prayer that has laid a good foundation for our ministry. If it wasn’t for Jackie, my ministry would not grow. I give credit to Jackie and my mother-in-law. I truly appreciate her unwavering love to God, her faithful walk in prayer, and her obedience to His Words. She is greatly appreciated by me and our children.
Single Korean moms in those days either committed suicide or gave up their children for adoption, but she didn’t and relied heavily upon the Lord’s provisions for all her needs. She is truly a remarkable woman and so is many of you. You devoted your life to Christ in prayer and in His Word. You placed your dependence upon the Lord greater than your own personal and satisfactory needs. You are a great woman of God and I truly thank you. Your faith in Christ never gave up on your children, even when your children have run away from you and God. You stood steadfast in your prayer and broke through the storms guided by the Holy Spirit. Most importantly, God loves you, and your prayers are a pleasing aroma to Him. This is truly a beautiful love story between God and You. Our heavenly Father truly has you in His mind and will never leave you nor forsake you. May our Lord continue to cover you and bless your footsteps and may the baptism of the Holy Spirit empower you in Jesus Mighty Name. Amen and Amen.
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